Tonight my husband told me that he bought a bunch of toilet paper (huzzah!) and that he got it at a great deal. It was several dollars below regular price AND he used a coupon!! You think that I would have been so proud…
. . . but sadly I wasn’t 🙁
I told him that it “wasn’t that great of a deal” and how “I could do better”.
Perfect I am not.
This was a prime example of behaviors and attitudes that discourage people from the joy that is living on less and turn frugal people into Scrooges.
Here was my beloved husband (we can call him Mr. LazyFrugal or Mr LF) doing BETTER than the norm! He searched for the discount AND used a coupon. I should have been thankful.
My life is not any worse off paying a few extra dollars for some toilet paper, but it may be a bit better that I actually HAVE some toilet paper. 😉 Life is definitely not all about saving money, so how can we become frugal without becoming prideful, cheap and miserly?
I’ve come up with a few tips for us frugal-types who need to be reminded that people matter more than deals:
Encourage one another
People get excited about deals. There’s nothing like the rush of a good deal. When others share with you the savings they’ve achieved, get excited with them rather than boasting how you could have found a better deal.
Share the deals
Sometimes finding a clearance sale item or a great coupon feels like a goldmine. If anyone else finds it, then it will be stolen. This of course is untrue.
So, give away some of your coupons to people at the grocery store, share that online deal with a friend and tell your neighbour about the 50% off rack in the back of your favourite store. You will never regret being generous and even a small gesture of kindness can go a long way.
If you don’t have anything nice to say. . .
In the excitement and passion for saving money, it’s easy to try to give advice to a friend who’s having a financial struggle. Unless they ask for advice or a solution to their problem, try and keep your tips to yourself. Instead, try to be a good listener.
This also covers friends who are excited about purchases that we would not make. They don’t want your advice. They just want to show you their new car, pictures of their vacation destination or fancy new phone.
What are some ways you struggle with being a frugal snob? Have you ever been the victim of unwanted financial advice? Was there a time that you were frugally loving your neighbor?!! I would love to hear your stories in the comments below.